It’s that time of year once again. Spring and Passover.
The spring is budding and the sun shines warmly. The little bit of sunshine makes all the difference at this point and time in the year as we ready our homes and selves for Pesach.
The rain clouds shed moisture too ready the soon to be flowers and grasses for growth. I can’t wait for the wondrous color that comes as the season approaches.
It’s been a long winter and we are ready. Ready for the warmth, ready for the colorful sights, and sweet smells that a new spring brings. We are ready for Passover!
Except during this new time we are reminded in this Torah portion to keep hate out of our hearts and love one another. A straight forward request we all may say, but one that appears harder than it should.
“Do not hate your brother in your heart. You must surely admonish your neighbour and not bear sin because of him. Do not take revenge or bear a grudge against the children of your people. Love your neighbour as yourself. I am God.” (19:17-18)
Hmm sounds easy doesn’t it? Not so fast.
The first request is to not hate some in your heart. This comes before bearing a grudge or loving others. I think its mentioned first because a strong hate inside of you can destroy more than you.
This internal hate can fester and destroy you as well as the person it is focused on. Hatred in your heart is a poison that slowly kills all involved.
The Torah is focusing particularly on hatred that is kept in one’s heart to the exclusion of hatred that is expressed externally. Which brings us to the part about admonishing our neighbor, which is next in order of the text.
If we speak out when angry or hurt and admonish others the chance of our hatred lessening is greater. Not speaking out can cause our hearts to be full of hate.
So the way I see it isn’t to go around and blast any and everyone when we are upset, but to at least be able to speak our peace when frustrated or hurt so as not to hold onto the hate.
A simplified observation I am sure, but non-the-less valuable one for each of us.
In turn do not take revenge or hold a grudge as this will also surely cause pain. Loving one another as yourself is really a big deal. Its a difficult thing to do on a daily basis, so start slowl
A little bit goes a long way, just like the spring sunshine.